#1 CERTIFIED PERSONAL DIVORCE COACH JULIE BENTLEY

DESIGNS ON LIFE COACHING

Life By Design Not By Default

Personal Management with results

Julie Bentley Certified Coach specializing in DIVORCE.

Julie Bentley, Certified Coach
818-760-0904 julie@DOLcoaching.com

JULIE BENTLEY BRINGS HER EXTENSIVE BACKGROUND IN RELATIONSHIP COACHING TO SPECIALIZE IN PEOPLE FACING A DIVORCE. TO JOIN A FREE WEEKLY TELEPHONE CONFERENCE CALL FOR PEOPLE FACING A DIVORCE EMAIL julie@DOLcoaching.com

Julie Bentley:
Certified Coach

Satisfied by Julie's Guidance

“I am grateful to this day that I asked Julie into my life. In hindsight, sorting out everyday issues would have been easier with Julie’s guidance. Julie would tell me to “take back my power”. In truth, my legal bills would have been substantially less. I felt sucked into the lawyer process of the longer we can drag this out, the more profitable for us.

Julie uses simple sound steps. Simple is all I could handle. Simple, but not always easy. Simple but freeing. At times I felt I needed to be taken by the hand because I couldn't deal with every thing myself. Grounding is a word that comes to mind when I think about the effect of Julie’s help.

I could ramble on more, but the bottom line is that the coaching simplified things in a life that seemed to be in a downward vortex.” Alice B.

Video interview on Rogers Cable DayTime TV (9:50 WMV file)

Client Audio Testimonial: Tara Dawn Interviews Debbie March 23, 2004 (1:47 MP3 file)

Audio Interview: Tara Dawn Interviews Julie March 28, 2004 (5:01 MP3 file)
Onward and Upward

Join a Free weekly telephone conference call for people facing a divorce.

This FREE call will benefit people who are ready to move onward and upward.

Onward and Upward is perfect if you are:

· receptive to new ideas
· willing to accept coaching
· open to different perceptions
· able to complete your personal fieldwork
· willing to investigate personal behavior
· ready to be accountable
· willing to communicate sincere feelings
· Willing to be responsible for your life.
· Ready to get on with your life

**You need to have something at stake, something you really want to achieve. **

We will explore:
What you need.
How you get it.
What you know you need to let go of.
Who you are now.
What you want to reclaim.
What your new life design looks like.

Will occasionally have guest speakers such as Pat Russel founder of The Divorce Foundation and other related professionals and complimentary modalities.

Join Onward and Upward by emailing:
julie@DOLcoaching.com

This call IS NOT for blaming others or living in the past, getting fixed or saved or obtaining professional advice including therapy

Date: Starts on April 5, 2006.

Time:
We will meet from 7-8 pm Pacific Standard time, 8 pm Mountain , 9 Central and 10 pm Eastern Standard Time.

For other time zone conversions visit:
http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html)

To sign up for Onward and Upward email: julie@DOLcoaching.com

The Coach's Background; Personal

Julie's success as a certified coach comes from a combination of a willingness to talk straight, an ability to see beyond the content of a situation, compassion and a belief that self-awareness is a key to achieving desired results. Her own life reveals common threads of perseverance and determination that ultimately inspire her clients, colleagues, and community. The way that Julie has chosen to deal with her unique personal situation forms the root of her inspiration.

Julie often voices determination and a positive attitude that have guided her through her many life challenges. Julie often refers to the fact that “I am not visually impaired… I have a visual impairment.” Her steadfast work to remove any obstacles Julie sums up as “I refuse to be at the effect of what life hands out”, which also speaks volumes about her daily attitude. These are fundamental statements of Julie’s outlook on life.

A well rounded individual, Julie set herself the high standard of "… I let nothing stand in my way". For example, she has participated in many extreme sports including rock climbing, cliff jumping, parachuting, to name a few. Well traveled, Julie has visited Japan, Hong Kong, Hawaii, the islands of Greece, and Europe. She’s also lived in Mexico, visited Belize and the jungles of Guatemala with her dog guide.

Now a formally trained certified coach, Julie brings a clear understanding about coaching coupled with the ability to train her clients to remove their own obstacles. “When people have a paradigm shift, what used to look like a problem now looks like an opportunity." This phrase has helped Julie live a life she has designed, where daily, she has the opportunity to help others find their personal design on life.

Training and Education

Landmark Education International Corp. training -1993 to current
Landmark Education The Forum –3 times
Landmark Education Advanced Course
Landmark Education Self-Expression and Leadership Program
Landmark Education Communication Access to Power
Landmark Education Introduction to a Forum Leader Program
Landmark Education Relationship Seminar Series
Landmark Education Forum in Action Seminar Series
Landmark Education Excellence Seminar
Coach University Graduate 2001 to 2003
Coach University Certified Life Coach 2005
Sheridan College Social Service Work Diploma 1990
Mohawk College Volunteer Management Certificate 1994

Coaching Related Experience

Designs on Life Coaching, Personal Coach and Owner –2001 to present
Coached over 200 private clients and over 50 in groups.
Canspeak Accelerated coached participants after completion of time management course
Work-life Resources coached participants after completing Every Day Coaching course
Career Centre Employment Counselor for unemployed Canadians
Greater Toronto Area International Coach Federation, Director Community Services 2001 to 2004
Landmark Education International Corp. coached 1994 to current
Landmark Education Self-Expression and Leadership Program, Coach –3 times
Landmark Education Communication Access to Power, Coach-2 times

Coaching Defined

Designs on Life Coaching applies a coaching process that is effective with clients facing just about any situation. This forward-moving process facilitates clients in discovering their own answers by experiencing self-discovery with a trained coach by their side. The coach interacts at a strategic level, asking questions that require a client to clarify aspects of their life, in so answering the questions. When coached by a professionally trained, skilled coach, the client’s personal results are long lasting and enable them to live their new design on life to the fullest.
Top Benefits From Coaching

Understanding how human beings and specifically your self work
Dealing with and reacting to people differently
Developing inner peace and strength
Discovering what gets in your way
Customized methods to consistently step around your obstacles
Designing and living an authentic life
Reaching your goals
Doing the right things at the right time

Designs on Life Coaching Method

Based on the philosophy “each person knows what is best for him or her!" Certified coach, Julie Bentley’s coaching is described as future focused. By emphasizing self-awareness leading to self-development, her coaching sessions examine ways of closing the gap between where clients are and where they want to be.

Several underlying themes make up the core of Julie’s coaching method: clarification of a client’s wants, needs and direction; re-contextualizing the client’s “limiting beliefs”; and planning ways to overcome the roadblocks to reaching the client’s life goals.

Julie gently guides her clients, creating a safe environment for them to learn about themselves. The coaching sessions are warm and supportive enabling clients to experiment with solutions and to say whatever they need to say, without fear of being put down, made to feel wrong or in other ways criticized. About coaching, Julie says, “Self awareness leads to choices, growth and opportunity. In essence, that’s the process I walk people through”.

Julie Bentley's Clients...

I have coached individuals from all walks of life, ages, and different situations. I've provided a partial listing below.

I invite you to review my Client Testimonials.

By Position:

Executive Management
President
Entrepreneur
Teacher
Chiropractor
Bank manager
Executive director
startup venture
Realtor
Artist
People with ADHD, manic depression or a learning disability
Financial advisor
Coach
Student
Special interest groups
Web designer
Image consultant
Corporate Manager

By Situation:
Going through a transition; Wanting to grow their business
Taking early retirement, planning a post-retirement career
Needing better relationships or more effective communication
Mid-life career change
Dealing with relationship issues
Needing to discover or resolve reoccurring patterns
Wanting more passion or satisfaction out of life
Deciding they want a lifestyle on their own terms
Needing to work through an unseen barrier
Learning to coach

Speaking of Coaching...

Julie is an interesting and accomplished speaker who would be happy to talk to you about creating a compelling presentation for you or your clients.

Read our Audience Testimonials

Speaker Topics Speaking Engagements ~ 2001-PresentSpeaking Bio

International Coach Federation http://www:coachfederation.org

Coach University http://www:coachu.com

CoachVille http://www:coachville.com/

2002

Give Your Life a Makeover by Linda Barnard, Canadian Living Magazine, May 2002
Tuning Up Your Life by Karen Wright, Chatelaine Magazine, November 2002
Life Coaching: You Call the Plays, by Tralee Pearce, The Globe and Mail, August 26, 2002

Julie in the Media

Women On The Move

SIMCOE COUNTY BUSINESS August 2001Woman are starting up their own businesses and contributing to the country's economy.

Women On The Move (PDF)
Personal Power
Women With Vision August 2001When we fail to take responsibility we give up our "personal power".

Personal Power (PDF)
Articles by Julie
Conscious Living: The Stress of Change

Often clients are motivated to seek coaching because of an uncomfortable or painful situation that may have resulted from a major life stress such as a divorce, a job loss or a death. This leads to a conversation regarding our beliefs and what we make it mean about us on a personal level.

It is normal to be upset and struggle with losing the things we believed we could "count on." In a coaching session, we examine how these upsets relate to our core beliefs and feelings of self worth.

In the condensed conversation below my client and I were discussing her feelings about her pending divorce. She is struggling with her core beliefs about her self.

Client: "It has been over a year since he left. I am so tired of feeling down. I've got to try to get on with my life but I just can't seem to do that."

Coach: Let's go beyond the obvious distress of the divorce and determine exactly why you are upset. What do you think marriage gave you?"

Client: "Being married made me feel important, like I belonged and was loved."

Coach: "And now that your marriage has ended?"

Client: "Well, I do not feel loved. I feel unimportant and disregarded."

Coach: "It sounds like your importance and value as a person is collapsed with the marriage.

How can you regain your sense of importance and value?."

Client: "By separating my value from being married, I can believe that I am valued, important, am loved and belong no matter what my marital status is."

Coach: "Can that become a firm truth for you?"

Client: "Yes, it can. I still have value, I am still belong, and I am important and am loved by people! I am just not married. They could be very separate things."

It can be incredibly painful when we are faced with life altering events like divorce, with our self worth collapsing along with the marriage. Identifying our personal issues can calm us and help us to reclaim our power. The discovery of the real issue gives us the ability to take back control.

As this client did, you can separate your self worth from a divorce, or other stressful situations in your life. Of course, it is natural to be upset when a major relationship ends, but it is another matter to feel devalued as a human being. My clients have found it much easier to deal with a divorce, once they have separated the event from their self-worth.

Self Growth Work for the Reader: How did you handle the last stressful change in your life? Are there situations you avoid dealing with in order to maintain the status quo? What negative core beliefs have you developed because of an unwelcome change in your life?

Begin to identify your core beliefs and how to move past them. Call today for an introductory coaching conversation.

Conscious Living: Communicating Effectively
During some point in our lives, most of us experience instances when we are unable to communicate effectively. Often, when coaching clients, I work on developing their ability to communicate effectively. I define effective communication as an exchange, which achieved the desired results.

A client was experiencing conflict at work. First, we established what her "story" was regarding the situation. A "story" is the details that we create in our minds about another person or situation. She was convinced that her manager treated her differently because she is a woman and that he shows favoritism towards a co-worker in the office. My client could site several incidences that supported her story. This is a common cycle. We form an opinion, or a story, and then collect the evidence to support it. The payoff is that we get to be "right," which is a powerful need in itself.

Next, we dealt with what she gained and lost from being right. For coaching purposes, it is important to focus the losses we may experience around being "right." The losses always outweigh the benefits. Through self-reflection, my client realized that her losses were quite heavy. Her energy level was way down, she dreaded going to work, she was not enjoying her life in other areas, and she was losing business because of the situation.

To help her rectify her work situation, I asked her the following questions: "What are you committed to achieving?" And, "Is there a part of your story that you would be willing to give up?" She declared her commitment to a supportive and thriving workplace and decided that she would give up the notion that her boss treats her differently because she is a woman.
We developed the following plan to help her communicate effectively in a planned meeting with her manager.

Acknowledge your manager for something - this must be authentic. If you cannot think of something to acknowledge him for, you probably have not shifted from being right to a neutral position.

Verbalize your commitment to a supportive and thriving workplace.

Clean up the past by apologizing.

Make a request. She planned on requesting that they be able to talk openly about their relationship with the intent to make it more mutually supportive.

Another way we enhanced her communication skills was to tweak her terminology. Instead of saying to her boss, "You made me feel…" she could say, "What would work for me is…" By first concentrating on her owning her feelings and reactions, she became ready to apologize. Her attitude shifted from, "He treats me differently," to "I feel he treats me differently." This shift had to be internal, not just a change in terminology.

When working with clients, it is important that I look not at what is right and wrong, but at how they can effectively communicate based on the goal(s) they would like to achieve.
Food for thought: Do you have situation(s) in your life in which you feel you are right? Can you identify the losses you may be experiencing because you are right? The benefits? Is being right effective in getting to your desired goal? How well do you communicate?
If you want help answering these questions, call to book a complimentary coaching session. Begin discovering your authentic self today!

Speaker Topics Speaking Engagements ~ 2001-PresentSpeaking Bio

Individual Coaching Services
Participate in a unique three-step program that every day will have a profound impact for the rest of your life!
You will discover yourself at a profound level as we together:
Surface your core belief about your self
Examine where in your life these beliefs show up.
Develop a “strong muscle” around making your beliefs work for you.
This program is available by phone. Coaching sessions are booked 2 or 3 times per month.
Rates:30-minutes = $50.0045-minutes = $75.0060-minutes = $100.00
Before we decide to work together we must book a mutual telephone interview. To determine if you are a good candidate for coaching. Specifically, are you:
Ready and capable of participating in a coaching relationship?
Receptive to new ideas?
Willing to accept coaching?
Open to different perceptions?
Able to complete the required homework?
Willing to investigate personal behavior?
Ready to be accountable?
Willing to communicate sincere feelings?
Willing to be responsible for the coaching session agenda?
Have some thing at stake?
For further information contact Julie Bentley at 818-760-0904 or email at Julie@DOLcoaching.com
Coach on Call Service
There are several reasons for using the Coach on Call service. Many clients requested maintenance coaching after completing a three-month coaching plan. In this case sessions may be less frequent or shorter in length. Others found after completing a course of action they wanted the security of knowing they could call their coach if they hit a bump in the road. In other situations due to the nature of an individual's goals or schedule sessions are booked one by one.

Payment Terms:Charges will be paid by credit card upon completion of the coaching session. A minimum booking of 15-minutes is required. After the first 15-minutes you will be billed in 5-minute increments and only pay for the time you use.

Rates:$25.00 for the first 15-minute minimum and $8.35 for every 5 minutes after that.These rates are equal to private coaching rates. A minimum booking of 15-minutes will be required.30-minutes = $50.0045-minutes = $75.0060-minutes = $100.00

Coaching Ground Rules

Our Relationship
As with any relationship, a commitment to each other is important.
I COMMIT TO:
YOU COMMIT TO:
Listen to you; you are the focus.
Feedback to you what I hear or don't hear.
Share with you my advice, ideas and observations.
Push you to excel, sometimes when you would rather I didn't.
Support the actions you need to take to achieve extraordinary results.
Celebrate your successes.

Be willing to generate the content of our sessions, be prepared as to what we will be discussing in each call.

Only agree to reasonable objectives and deliver on your commitments.
Stay connected and call for our scheduled appointments on time.
Speak up when you are feeling uncomfortable or challenge what I have said if it doesn't sit right with you.

Being honest with yourself and me.

Celebrate your successes.
About the Coach

Julie's success as a formally trained certified coach comes from a combination of a willingness to talk straight, an ability to see beyond the content of a situation, compassion and a belief that self-awareness is a key to achieving desired results.

Coaching Ground Rules Coach on Call Service
For other time zone conversions visit:
http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html)

To sign up for Onward and Upward email:
julie@DOLcoaching.com
this call visit: